Your First Love
Posted By Mike on February 9, 2009
Read Jesus’ letter to the church at Ephesus this morning.
As far as the church (our churches) goes here’s what I wrote.
But I was drawn Jesus’ words, “You have forsaken your first love.” The more I thought about those words the more I thought about the church’s relationship to Jesus. He is their groom and the church is his bride. In essence He was saying that his bride had lost their love for their husband. . .their spouse.
As I mulled these words around in my mind this morning I couldn’t help to wonder about my own marriage. I remember when we got married – the excitement, the wonderment, the awe, the amazement that God would bless me with such a gift. Then I began thinking, after only a year and three months, would Cindy know if I had stopped loving her like I did when we first got married? Would she be able to tell if I was just going through the motions? Am I more madly in love with her today than I was the day we joined our lives together? I wrestled with these questions.
Here’s what I came up with:
- I am more madly in love with her today that I was the day we were married!
- I never want to get to a place where I ‘m just going through the motions – I want to do what I do because I love her. . .AND I want her to know it!
- I never, ever want her to wonder if I’m just going through the motions – doing the right things without the right reasons.
- If she ever thinks I am, I want her to call me on it.
- If I find myself going through the motions, I want to be man enough to admit it, repent of it, and begin falling back in love with her.
What about your relationship with your wife? You just going through the motions in your relationship with her? If not, keep it up!! Our world needs more men like you. You can help by encouraging and teaching others what you’ve learned about keeping the love fires hot. If you are just going through the motions, Jesus said there was a solution. I think it’s risky, but it’s His remedy not mine. He says we need to admit we’ve forsaken our first love; first to yourself, second to God, and third to your wife. This takes guts. It takes courage. It takes a willingness to do things right and be obedient to God – love God and love others, most especially your wife. Then Jesus tells us to repent, or turn from just the motions and turn back to your wife. This may mean getting rid of anything and everything that attracts and distracts your love away from your wife. Finally, Jesus said we shoudl get back to doing those things that you did when you first started falling in love with her.
Like I said, this could be risky, but it’s the right thing to do. Just remember, just because it’s hard doesn’t mean it’s not the right thing. Guys, it’s up to us to take the lead in our families. It’s up to you to make things right.
Mike
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